on second thought . . .

Second-guessing is sideways energy, and I’m so guilty of letting too many sweet moments in my life get overshadowed by my fitful rethinking. Second-guessing the new baseboards. Second-guessing my parenting. Second-guessing the way I’m spending my time. Second-guessing...

deeper anchors

A long time ago, when Luke and Lane were babies, I went out for a drive by myself. I drove this loop that took me right in front of the beach in Coronado. I was raw meat during those days. Raw. Meat. A little like how I feel today. Like we’re still pushing to get...

bread & wine

I just finished Shauna Niequist’s newest memoir, Bread & Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table with Recipes. I am a reluctant kitchen-person. I “assemble” more than cook, let’s say. I so so so appreciate all good food (believe me), but I’m not really...

in order to be free

I wrote a post a few months ago focusing on the idea of making amends. “Making amends” is about reconciling, addressing the rift or, sometimes, the chasm that has been dug out through mistrust, mistreatment, and misunderstanding. It occurred to me, at some point, that...

channeling your inner Navy SEAL, #2

My post, “Channeling Your Inner Navy SEAL,” was met with some interest and enthusiasm and a request to turn the idea into a blog mini-series. I loved the idea. Here’s the background: Much of my husband’s job remains a mystery to me, even after almost 10 years of...

a word about transitions

On January 7th, movers came to our villa in Bahrain and packed our belongings into wooden crates to be transported to San Diego. Once the house was empty, we moved into a hotel where we lived for five weeks, trying to time it so that we wouldn’t have to wait too long...