“She who does not find grace in herself dies slowly.”
-Pablo Neruda
What if we just decided to believe that we’re not doing life wrong?
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My husband constantly tells me that we, meaning people – all people – are always, always doing the best we can. Could/Should/Would is irrelevant because we’re working with what we have, what we know, what we fear, what we believe at any given moment and operating from that.
Your question above coincides with Jim’s belief. And it has stopped me in my tracks.
Annette — It’s so much easier to offer grace to others and to ourselves if we begin with the belief that everyone’s doing the best they can. As more is revealed, we grow and become . . . hopefully. But some days it’s hard to believe that for ourselves. We are stuck in “I’m doing it all wrong and everyone else is doing it all right.” I have to remind myself so often that this kind of thinking is never, ever true. So glad this post intersected with you in a meaningful way. Thank you for your loyal reading and commenting and encouragement. Means the absolute world to me. Love you.
The timing of this Leeanna could not be more…. needed.
Today in a moment of profound pain and fear I was so unkind (the evil mean snarky with words unkind), I was I am shocked by the intention and the ease in which I could wound someone I love so much and tonight amounst the tears and regret and the apology not yet responded to… I find myself in need of just this…. GRACE. Grae given and grace received.
Thank you for this. and prayers? that would be so very much appreciated
Ella — thank you for sharing this tender moment with all of us. How we can ALL relate to letting words fly that we immediately regret. How we can ALL regret to responding out of our fear and pain. Thank you for naming the truth of what happened for you in that moment, and the difficult aftermath. Brave . . . and reminds us we are not alone in our humanity. I’ve said a few prayers for you Ella. Believing God is with you. Love, LT